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65% Indian Women Literate, 5% Have Sole Control Over Choosing Their Husband

Lavanya Garg,
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How much control do Indian women have over different aspects of their lives?


Not much, according to the Indian Human Development Survey (IHDS), conducted by the University of Maryland and the National Council of Applied Economic Research in 2004-2005 and 2011-2012.


Only 4.99% of women in India had sole control over choosing their husbands, while 79.8% of women needed permission to visit a health centre, according to the 2012 IHDS survey, showing little change since the IHDS survey in 2005, when 5% reported having sole control over choosing their husband, and 74.2% reported needing permission to visit a health centre.  


The IHDS survey in 2012 covered over 34,000 urban and rural women between the ages of 15 and 81, in 34 Indian states and union territories.


Overall, 73% of the women surveyed reported that their parents or relatives alone chose their husbands, while as few as 5% of women reported to have had sole control over choosing their husbands.


A similar survey for men has not been conducted.


Source: India Human Development Survey 2012

Top five and bottom five states, 2012


Women need permission to visit a grocery store, healthcare center


Limited control over life decisions extended to visiting a healthcare centre, and a grocery store.


Almost 80% of women said they had to seek permission from a family member to visit a health centre. Out of these women, 80% said they needed permission from their husband, 79.89% from a senior male family member, and 79.94% from a senior female family member.


Further, 58% of women reported that they needed permission to visit the local kirana (grocery) store, compared to 44.8% in 2005.


Such restrictions are also echoed in other indicators. For instance, only 27% of Indian women are in the labour force, the second-lowest rate of female labour-force participation in South Asia after Pakistan, as IndiaSpend reported in April 2016.


Women, however, seemed to have control over what is cooked in the house, a decision that 92.89% women reported making everyday. About 50% reported that the husband took part in deciding what to cook, highlighting the gendered nature of household chores.


Since 2005, there has been a decrease in the percentage of women who decide what they cook (94.16% in 2005), and an increase in the percentage of men (40.89% in 2005) who took part in the decision.


Women (In %) Who Ask Permission To Visit Health Center


In The Same States…

Source: India Human Development Survey 2012


A woman’s freedom to make decisions depends on where she lives


More women chose their own husband in states in north-eastern and southern India as compared to northern India, as per 2012 IHDS data.


The percentage of women who had sole say in choosing their husbands was lowest in Rajasthan (0.98%), followed by Punjab (1.14%) and Bihar (1.19%). It was the highest in Manipur (96%), followed by Mizoram (88%) and Meghalaya (76.9%).


As many as 65% of the women said they had met their husband for the first time on the wedding day, but wide variations exist across states. For instance, all women in Manipur had met their husband before the day of the wedding, while 94% of women in Bihar met their husband for the first time on the day of the wedding.


This highlights the “arranged” nature of marriages in India, a process in which prospective partners usually meet for the first time with the intention of getting married, after their family vets the spouse-to-be, and the match is backed by the support of their extended social network.


A similar trend in regional variations can be seen in the percentage of women who needed permission to visit a health care center. As many as 94% of women reported needing permission to visit a health center in Jharkhand, the highest of any state, while only 4.76% of women in Mizoram needed permission, the lowest.


The top five states, which weren’t necessarily doing well in 2005 like Mizoram, Sikkim, Tripura and West Bengal, have improved since then. However, more women in the bottom five states reported they had to ask for permission to visit the health centre in 2012 as compared to 2005.


Does higher literacy lead to greater decision-making power? Not really


A woman’s power to make decisions regarding marriage, and visits to a healthcare centre are not correlated with literacy at the state-level, or to the sex ratio (the number of females per 1000 males), suggesting the role of social norms, which might differ by state.


For example, in Chattisgarh, which has one of the highest sex ratios in the country (991), only 7.57% women said they did not need permission from another family member to visit a healthcare center.


Source: India Human Development Survey 2012

Note: States with the the highest sex ratio in India


This paradox is not being observed for the first time–despite female literacy levels being higher than before, the child sex ratio (indication of son preference) in India is at its lowest since 1951, as IndiaSpend reported in December 2016.


“The bias against daughters can only end if women’s education is accompanied by social and economic empowerment”, concluded a study conducted over a period of 30 years in Gove, Maharashtra, by Carol Vlassoff, a professor at the University of Ottawa, as IndiaSpend reported in December 2016.


In Delhi, which has a literacy rate of 86.21% (higher than the national average of 74.04%), only 2.09% women reported they had sole control over choosing their husband. Meghalaya, which has a lower literacy rate than Delhi (74.43%), ranks third from the top in terms of women who said they had sole control over choosing their husband (76.9%).  


Source: India Human Development Survey 2012

Note: States with the the highest literacy rates in India


“Cultural climate also plays a role”, said Kavita Krishnan, secretary of the Delhi-based All India Progressive Women’s Association, which works on issues such as reservation for women in Parliament and violence against women. “In and around Delhi, there is  no doubt a more rigid patriarchal culture that is hostile to women’s sexual autonomy–this may be far less the case in Meghalaya”, she explained.


“This study shows that denial of autonomy is in itself one of the central problems for Indian women. This problem can’t be addressed by literacy alone, and  governments need to address the issue directly”, Krishnan added.


(Garg is a Research Associate with the University of Michigan.)


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  1. Nodnat Reply

    February 18, 2017 at 8:15 am

    True, but for ‘autonomy’ it would seem the relationship is to do with ‘education’, something not to be confused with literacy. We all know that our literacy figures are nothing more than just figures; they mean nothing. Most literate (and illiterate) women in rural and urban India are slaves to their husbands and servants to their in-laws. So, you see a ‘slave’ might run away if allowed to go to the PHC alone?

  2. D. Jayakumar Reply

    February 27, 2017 at 2:30 am

    Education and economic empowerment have not matched social empowerment. Well done; the writer deserves appreciation.

  3. Abhijit Sahu Reply

    October 15, 2017 at 10:37 pm

    Nicely written, agreed 100% and feeling proud as I am from the north east.

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